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Clarity in this concept has been running through my veins the last few weeks and I really want to share. While monitoring my thoughts/reactions to daily events/future or past I sense the perception I'm creating about each and the energetic consequence of these thoughts. I'm realizing through my thought pattern I am creating suffering within. I begin to step back as much as I can from the situation to view all sides. There has to be a bright side! Eliminating the words "Can't, hate, won't, sucks" rephrasing carefully to "not yet, I am going to, working on..."
Cognitive restructuring isn't easy at first, but the habit is fun.
While spending time with others, sharing in conversation I realize I am listening from a different place than before. My heart. I hear how they are expressing themselves. I sense the frustration, sorrow, guilt, self loathing, regret. I feel their hearts within mine as they express themselves to me. I hear a little bit of myself in their words. As they paint their portrait of the life situation presented, I can begin to grasp the full picture. I can see where they are choosing suffering instead of creating a viewpoint that settles the matter. By offering objective perspective the ability to advocate in a positive direction becomes more clear ! Finding both sides of the situation. Light and a dark.
Maintaining peace within every moment is quite a fine balance of accepting what's presented before you, allowing it to be and letting go of previous expectations.
"Life" this waking dream state we all seem to co-exist in. (Co-create within!) We wake, we work, we eat, hobbies, family time, whatever we will our time to be spent doing. When OUR plan and the Universe's plan doesn't align are when the challenges arise. Not getting the job you interviewed for, Losing your home in a fire, losing a family member, a tragic loss of a pet, car breaking down, unable to afford rent and bills, contracting an STD/AIDs, unexpected pregnancies, not scoring the audition, losing your job suddenly. Business shut down, financial bankruptcy, Car broken into, getting robbed/mugged, injuries, car accidents... do you see where I am going...?
I'm not getting into karma or we attract what we think about... What I'm trying to share, is that when presented with these unavoidable situations, we have the choice, to create heaven or to create hell. To be upset, stressed, angry, to revolt, to rebel, to create friction and tension OR to accept, to allow, knowing that all is in divine order. The amount of peace that comes with acceptance of whatever is before you is the heavenly state. Trusting that in the end...all things will settle. Realizing happiness is a choice. Truly. We all experience hardship. And when immersed in the pain of it, its hard to see through. There is always something learned, strength gained. Perspective, new direction, different intentions.
To know you truly have the choice within you, to craft your day, to control what influences your moment to moment existence. It is your divine right. It's our truest choice in life. Our attitude.
I love you.
Thanks for reading.
I am incredibly inspired by the unwavering warm feeling of true self love. My chest feels like love explosions are consistently going off, I feel love pulsing through my veins and the desire to reach out and hug trees, plants, animals and humans. SO much love overflowing from the inside, I feel the urge to share it. No need for it to be returned, for I have all I need from within.
What is Self Love?
Is it looking at yourself in the mirror and saying...
"Oh my, how lovely you are. You are so beautiful. You are so strong. I am proud of you!"
Maybe. That's part of loving your physical vessel which is how your spirit represents itself in the world.
Several things come to mind when I have paved my own path to incredible self love.
1. Accept Your Feelings
When I feel the sensation of anxiety, fear, sadness whatever it may be.. I take a moment to honor it. I have switched my self talk from "I am anxious" to now saying "I have a feeling of anxiety, it is not me, for it will pass." By accepting the sensation it looses its power. I then dig deeper. What is this emotion showing me? Where does the root of this emotion reside? Sometimes the answer is loud and clear, other times it is unknown. There is a fine balance of wanting to explain away your feelings and understanding the truth that they are showing you. Your feelings are the compass of your life.
2. Forgiveness
May be one of the hardest. Acknowledging your past does not define you or your future. Forgiving yourself for your perceived mistakes. Releasing the shoulda woulda coulda's! Accepting where you are is perfect in this moment. You created this reality. Accept it. Honor the truth of that. I suggest trying a mantra. I forgive myself for ________. Even if it doesn't feel true, if you begin to state it you will soon believe it. The power of forgiveness is beyond comprehension. This doesn't stop with self, forgiving others is one of the most peaceful acts you can do in the honor of self love.
3.Be Compassionate
Towards yourself! Treat yourself as you would your best friend. Positive self talk, support and belief in the ability to complete your tasks. Check in with your self talk. For example: You remember that you left important papers at home halfway on your way to work, do you call yourself a name? Are you angry? This is the perfect time to be compassionate! You can't change that you left your papers at home, but you do not have to beat yourself up, you are not dumb, or stupid. Instead of "WHY ME?" think.... "What's next?" Remind yourself that you are trying your very best in every moment of every day and that is really all you can do. Ahh, yes. Relax.
4. Knowing when to honor your boundaries. Saying YES or NO!
Life can pull us in many directions. Social events, work parties, travel experiences, whatever it may be. An important lesson in self love/self care is listening to what your heart truly wants to do with your time instead of falling into the pull of another. It is so easy to say "sure, I'll go along.." when in the back of your head/heart you would have rather stayed at home or done something different. What I'd like for all of us to realize when saying NO to one invitation we are also saying YES to many other things. For example: Declining a night out on the town with friends seems like being a debbie downer, but saying YES to relaxing at home, saying YES to cooking a meal for myself, saying YES to personal space, saying YES to saving money and energy. Saying YES to ME!
5. Self Care
As you rise from your nightly slumber, you feel stiff, headachey and hungry. Self care is noticing what the body's sensations are telling you and making the time to address them. Stretching, drinking plenty of water, a healthy nutritious breakfast. Making a point to have food in the fridge, food with you at work. never missing meal time. Your body deserves the upmost attention and care. It is your vessel on how you are a service to life, taking care of it, is a true action of self love.
You have time, if it's important to you! Cultivate a practice of stretching, meal preparation and fresh clean water consumption!
What is self love to you? How to you cultivate this practice? I'd love to hear about it!
Inspired from The Hathor Material
Observing two children on a see-saw, you watch as one kid goes up, the other kid goes down. A beautiful metaphor for consciousness as it moves into this duality experience from its still-point of non-duality. Opposite forces come into play, as with the seesaw, our worlds of polarities, as something moves up, something else moves down and so on. That moment, when the narrow board pauses, each side is parallel to the ground and when there is no movement-that is the fulcrum point. The perfect balance of these dualities, a neutral state of friction or activity. This is the present moment-NOW.
So in our life, as we experience the dualistic natural of existence, when we feel "down" we are also entering an initiatory portal! The difficulties, tests and trails are how the soul grows. You are working through the emotional, mental and spiritual "contents" of your own consciousness. Experienced by the events, thoughts, feelings and emotions that trigger within you. If you honor the fulcrum point-the present moment of your life, as that center, the pivotal focus of your own consciousness, you are prepared to move into a different relationship with your experience.
Honor your experience and feeling responses, for they are the meaning, context and purpose of your life.
It is ironic and paradoxical that your consciousness can create either heaven or hell around the same event. The reactions you experience in response to different events actually has very little to do with the event itself. These events are essential empty. They are triggers however, that cause something to respond from within your consciousness. As you go through the initiatory process of your life, you tune into the hellish tormented sensations of attachments-fears, pains, angers, sadness and the emotional states where you feel content, loved and fulfilled. These are your two polar states, and they work, move and pulsate from one to the other. The Fulcrum Point of your experience is on the edge of which they teeter. From this level of understanding you realize you are creating your emotional or feeling responses, and are responsible for them!
When you experience something difficult, look inside yourself in response to the event. The feelings and thoughts are telling you something. This is an opportunity for greater awareness and clarity. The power of the Fulcrum Point- it is a sacred moment. Every moment of your experience is sacred and when you find yourself in situations that are difficult and challenging, know that you have entered another initiation opportunity. They can be taken in a constructive and creative manner and the soul shall advance.
So- Love More. Forgive More. Understanding that love is truly an energetic power that will lead you to the qickest and deepest space of stability. When you enter into that vibrational state of love and acceptance, you are able to forgive, then you are in a position that is energetically unmovable. Whatever happens around you will not be disturbing because you are in the Fundamental Tone, the Fundamental Octive that holds and binds the Universe together. Consequently you are literally above it all and untouched by it.
So let us Love more. Forgive More.
I love you.
There always comes that sobering moment when a relationship ends. Hits you
like a bag of bricks. Head, heart, gut all at once. Doosh. Soul mates
are beautiful reflections for ourselves. We see what we are, what we are
not, and what we want to become. But they are not our be all end all.
WE ARE. True Self is within, not in others. Not in romantic connection.
Not in two bodies intertwined together making love. These are all
experiences to learn and grow from. All moments are fleeting. All
experiences are too. Good and Bad. Try not attach yourself to anyone or
anything. What is true is the wisdom and the love that lives with in.
Practice self love every day. Its important to not sacrifice yourself for another.
That is not the point of relationships! Let your self flourish. Honor
your desires, honor your passions! Follow your heart. Don’t walk the
path only because someone you love does. Walk your own path. Stay in
check with your heart source.
You enter the Kingdom Heaven through the doors within.
You are your end all be all.
Last week I began my morning routine like always, getting all my supplies out to make my delicious morning smoothie. I had been using my roommates older blender. It was already missing a lid, and recently the only way to turn it on and off was to plug and unplug it. Another blender issue developed, it would stop locking into place and would end up spinning madly out of control creating a huge mess.
Well, that happened. The blender didn't lock into place, and all my delicious organic ingredients went all over my face, clothing, and kitchen. It was too early for this! I wanted these nutrients in my body, not all over. I felt the sensations of frustration and self anger rising. I took a kitchen rag and smacked it on the counter top, releasing some of the energy. Why do I spend every morning with this silly blender? Why have I not invested in a new one?!
That is it! I can change this, so I am!
After training a client, I headed to the Good Will to see what I would find. And sure enough, it was my lucky day! I found an incredible food processor/blender that is worth a great deal for less than $20. I came home giddy as gumdrops! No more messes, I was frustrated about a situation and created the change I wanted to see. That easy! Now my roommate and I get to enjoy this new kitchen gadget. I cleaned all the little parts and set them aside to dry.
The following morning, my roommate and her boyfriend where excited to use the new toy. I received a text from her asking where the bottom part was that locks the blade and the glass container into place. Wishing I was home to help her look, I knew I had washed all the pieces and left them on the counter in plain sight. When I got home from work, I searched for the missing piece and I also could not find it!
This does not make sense! I just had them yesterday, all clean and ready to go. I was amped on finding the piece. I searched through the trash twice, the recycling, every cabinet and drawer in the kitchen. I decided to take a break from looking, knowing that it's in the house and it will turn up.
A few hours later, my roommates boyfriend came home and asked about the missing piece. This reminded me of the situation and I began frantically looking again. "This just doesn't make sense!" I declare, "I'm going to start searching in the places that don't make sense..." I began looking in the freezer, the fridge, the washing machine, the dryer, of course the missing blender part wasn't in any of these locations. My room mate comes home and also begins in the search.
All of us had put quite a bit of energy into finding this missing piece. I decide to step out of the house and head to the store.
When I return, I feel the energy is much more calm. They both have a smile on their face.
Turns out, the blender wasn't missing a piece at all. It's a different design where the glass container screws into the base part, we didn't need the "piece" we thought we were looking for.
It never existed. The answer was right in front of us the whole time, we just had to change our perspective. Look at it differently. Create a new way to approach the situation.
Two lessons gained with the blender experience. First one, if you are angry about a situation and you can change it, DO IT. No more wasting time and repeating the same stressful situations over and over. Second lesson, the answer you are looking for may be right in front of you, if you can open your mind and change your perspective and approach to the situation.
Deep.
